It's funny how the most random things can make you really think. I just watched the Wedding Singer and I had to wonder how many marriages are confirmed on the foundation of security. The woman, in this case Drew Barrymore, thought that no one would ever love her for who she was, so she devoted herself to a guy who could give her security but not a faithful relationship. This guy would just tell her that he worked long hours in the city and use that excuse to get laid by some chick who would feed his lust.
In addition, I wonder how many times we assume something about a situation, make a rash decision, and never truly hear the other side of the story or how the other person feels. It all leads to a pile of misunderstandings. The man ends up with the wrong girl and they are miserable.
It's a common belief that we will all be complete when we find love. If you're not that fortunate, then there must be something wrong with you. Man, what a hopeless way to live.
We all have the desire to be loved...we were wired that way but that is not what can complete us. Les and Leslie Parrott wrote it like this: “If you try to find intimacy with another person before achieving a sense of identity on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself.” We need to find true contentment in ourselves and be established in God's grace and love so that we can then love others. Our lives can be an outpouring of what God is doing in our lives in the secret place. Then we can learn what it means to sacrificially love someone. And, when it comes your turn to get married, you won't get cold feet because you will know that that is exactly what God has for you.
So if you're single...know that there is nothing wrong with you or the way you look or act. God will reveal his plans for you in due time. In the meantime, see this time as a gift to invest time in your relationship with God. You'd be surprised at how much he has to reveal to you. Make yourself moldable and experience a journey that you will never regret.
For He is the only one in whom you will ever find true contentment.